Back in 2014, as I started this blog, I began to draft a post:
I’m looking for blogs about living with violence.
The dominant narrative is about leaving violence.
I’m not seeing the blogs by people currently in emotionally, sexually or physically abusive relationships.
Weighing the pros and cons of staying or going.
Advice on how to maintain self and sanity, while minimizing fighting while maintaining independent interests, activities and life.
Instead the blogs are betternotbroken, or faith.love.hope
Living AFTER choosing to leave.
The comments are “hells yes, you should leave!”
Or “why did you stay so long?”
Or “I WAS there. Thank you for sharing.”
But I am looking for blogs about how to stay.
Is there a path forward to a better life with this person at my side? How do I make that happen?
I never posted this, due to shame. I was too ashamed to say – I want to choose to live with this guy, which means living with violence. How do I do this more safely?